What’s up everyone. It’s John Sims. This is my very first post for the “Wait on Marriage” page so allow me to introduce myself. Im an author, entrepreneur, rapper, and an overall servant of Gods people. I love to watch people win and encourage others. As you read these posts, hopefully the wisdom and insight helps you on your own journey.
As I was writing my thoughts out a few nights ago and processing how I was feeling about today’s dating world in general, I came to a realization. These dating streets can be crazy. Surely that’s something you may have already known but for me I truly realized that I wanted nothing to do with these dating streets. Heck, to be honest I didn’t even want to step off the porch. There’s so much craziness going on, not to mention countless debates on what men should do and what women should do. In a culture that’s swayed day to day from one spectrum to the other, this can get overwhelming. Regardless, for my own personal reasons I realized that I can’t date the way I used to for one simple reason: I know too much.
I realized that I can’t date the way I used to date for one simple reason: I know too much
I realized that I know too much about myself and what I value to just settle for good vibes. Do you remember back in the day when you could just pick someone at the club or bump into someone at a bar and feel the attraction and “catch a vibe”? Yea, this is a lot easier in your early twenties when you’re still figuring it all out. When I was still maneuvering purpose and career I just knew that I could find a woman that I found physically attractive and had great conversation with and go from there, with the hopes that everything else would just fall into place. Sometimes they did but sometimes they didn’t. Regardless it was good for the moment, right?
Yep, it was, back then. However, now in my 30’s as I attempt to slowly place my right pinky toe back into these dating streets, I realize I can’t even do this with the same “happy go lucky” mindset that I had before. Thoughts of would this person line up with my values, does our purpose align, do they value Children, and what’s their relationship with God like, all flow through my mind as I do this. This is normal though. As we mature our principles and values all become more prominent and it makes decision making easier when those values are clear. In our earlier ages most of us are still figuring out how to align our decisions with our values in the best way, but once we get to a certain age it’s set. It’s clear.
So, as I bring this initial blog post to a close I want you to recognize that you can’t date the way that you used to date, because you know too much. But that’s okay, that just makes you more exclusive. I want to encourage you to stay true to your principles and values without averting from your convictions just because today’s culture says otherwise. There are men and women out there that value what you value and God knows who and where they are.
1 Corinthians 13:11 When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things.